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Accountability Vs. Responsibility in Childbirth

Monday, December 8th, 2014

  This post is dedicated to my recent birth client Greta; As committed and accountable of a mom as can be. (Shared with her permission after changing her name)

Let me begin by sharing that one of the last births I have attended left me with a heavy heart. I have coached my client Greta for about 3 months toward achieving her goal: a VBAC for her second birth. During our prenatal coaching sessions, I came to respect her as one of the most committed, mindful, and accountable birth clients that I have had the honor of working with. I was looking forward to cheering her on during delivery, but we never got there. In fact, I did not even get to coach her through her birth.

As a birth professional, I trust you to know how hard it is nowadays to accomplish a VBAC. Greta was well aware of the challenge but remained committed to her wish for a vaginal birth. Her commitment was reflected in the long list of actions that she took in order to accomplish her goal:

  1. Greta’s first step was to establish her support group; she received support from her doctor, husband, family of origin, and me, as her birth coach.
  2. Greta is a working mom in the high-tech industry of Silicon Valley. Nevertheless, she was committed to making life-style changes in order to prepare her mind and body for the birth. She took prenatal yoga classes, swam until her 8th month, used her lunch break to hike every day, and watched her diet carefully. She also signed up for a hypnobirthing class and practiced the scripts.
  3. From the very beginning of our coaching relationship, it was clear that Greta was very knowledgeable about  childbirth and was in constant  search of more knowledge. In fact, she would take the lead in our discussions in regards to any type of remedy or alternative medicine support; she initiated emails and discussions about evening primrose oil, aromatic oils for birth, perineal massage, homeopathic tinctures, etc.
  4. During the last three months of her pregnancy, Greta and I met every other week for a prenatal coaching session. During these meetings, we worked on leaving her first birth experience behind and practicing forgiveness and acceptance. We practiced breath work and relaxations and wrote her an affirmation to attract the birth experience she wished for. We exchanged knowledge and distinguished truth from myth about childbirth. We wrote a birth plan, practiced positions, and addressed her fears and doubts that she might not be successful in her efforts to have a VBAC. It is the last point, coaching my client through the uncertainty of the outcome; pushing through one’s doubts and fears about not giving birth the way one wished for, that brought me to the write this post.

With the high rates of cesareans nowadays and the fact that we were having a TOLAC (Trial of Labor After Cesarean), we both knew what Greta was up against. So how can one persevere against the odds? It is almost as if no expectant mom these days can avoid preparing herself for a cesarean meanwhile preparing for her vaginal birth, and even more so, a mother who has already given birth once in a cesarean birth. So how do we coach mothers around these fears and help them push away the doubts? How do we not let these get in the way?

From a coaching point of view, we are talking about accountability Vs. responsibility. The major difference between these two concepts, and this is true in every field of coaching, is in the attachment to the outcome of our efforts. Accountability is the obligation of the individual to account for one’s actions, and accept the responsibility for them. Responsibility is the obligation of the individual to perform or complete a task. Do you see the difference? Being responsible means that you are accountable for the outcomes whereas being accountable means that you are responsible for the actions you take in the process of working toward achieving your goal, with no attachment to the outcome.

In childbirth, we can only be accountable for the process, for the actions we take towards a conscious and mindful birth. There are so many agents involved in birth; our physiology, our anatomy, the baby, the birth environment, our support group, the medical staff’s training and their reading of the situation, our stamina, our mental and emotional state before and during the birth, the list goes on. The bottom line is – doulas and birthing moms cannot be responsible for the outcome of a birth, only accountable for the actions taken.

As I coached Greta through her doubts, I chose to share these concepts and the difference between them in order to help her push through the uncertainty and leave her first birth experience in the past. During the prenatal coaching, it became clear that she was still angry with herself for not being accountable for her first birth. In fact, only while preparing for her VBAC, she acquired closure for her first birth and was able to generate a coherent and clear memory of what had happened the first time around. I can clearly remember three different opportunities where I brought the difference between accountability versus responsibility. I used it during prenatal coaching in order not to drag her past experience into the present by acknowledging the higher level of accountability that Greta was demonstrating now. I also used it in order to push through the fear of the possibility of a repeat cesarean by pointing out the inevitable of  what we can’t control.

healingGoing back to my heavy heart, I assume you guessed that the birth ended with another cesarean; it was a pretty traumatic one. Greta texted me around 11pm on Sunday night about a pain in the lower abdomen waking her from her sleep and that she thought her water broke. There were no contractions at that point. After 10 minutes or so, I got another text saying that the contractions had begun, strong and steady and 5 minutes apart, each lasting for a minute or more. I texted back that I was getting ready and would soon be on my way to her. Ten minutes later, when I had just gotten into my car, I received another text from the dad this time, telling me that Greta was shivering and that the contractions were 3 minutes apart, lasting almost 2 minutes each. The intensity of her state prompted me to call and ask them to meet me at the hospital. I arrived there first and was still thinking, “what if she is at the very beginning and will be upset with me for not supporting her in laboring at home longer.” After all, our coaching agreement was to labor at home for as long as possible.

Their car rushed into the hospital’s parking lot. Greta’s husband jumped out and so did her mom. Greta could hardly stand, could not breath, and was in extreme pain. We entered L&D with Greta in the wheelchair. The nurse led us to the observation room and monitored the baby’s heartbeat. Five minutes later, I was left there all alone as my client was rushed to an emergency cesarean due to a very low fetal heart rate. During these five minutes, the medical staff commenced their fervent evaluation at the midst of an emergency –  vaginal exam, internal monitor for verification, declared code C, inserted IVs, withdrew blood, verified allergies, gave verbal explanations, and established consent.

As a doula, I often hear the following saying “what matters is that you have a healthy baby and healthy mom.” We use this saying to comfort mothers that did not have the birth experience they wished for. While this is the absolute truth, it is beside the point. It addresses the outcome of the pregnancy and not the birth experience. Therefore, it is not the best coaching strategy to resolve any bad feelings that the mothers might have regarding her birth. The mother was not only accountable for having a healthy baby but also for having a vaginal and healthy delivery. I find that the ‘Accountability Vs. Responsibility’ coaching discussion is a good strategy that can support both the mother and her doula.   I know it helped me in my healing process, along with a local online doula support group (Yes, doulas are online at 2 in the morning, thanks sisters!)

When I got back home I sat down to practice breathing and meditate. The morning came, and I decided to make Greta a card. I searched on the internet and found the image shown above. I actually made two cards, one for her and one for me. I went back to the hospital around 10 am. Greta hugged me and asked how I was. I replied by asking how she was doing,  but  she kept reassuring me that she is fine, that she has no remorse, and that she is in full acceptance of the circumstances. “This must have been really hard for you, Neri; emotionally, your work is so hard,”she said.  For a moment I was not sure that I had made the card for her, it might have been for my own well-being. Greta felt that she did everything that was in her power to have a healthy childbirth. Even though this time  it was an emergency cesarean under general anesthesia, she shared that she was more at ease with it this time because she felt mindful and accountable, and it empowered her to accept the inevitable. Her words helped me be grateful for taking part in this birth and being there to guide her with my coaching skills and experience.

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Hey Doula, Can You Handle My Husband?

Friday, November 14th, 2014

Were you ever hired by an expectant mom to “handle her husband”?  In my sixteen years of practice I certainly have had a few clients who wanted to hire my doula services for that. There could be different explanations that come along with this request, such as:  “I do not want him in the room at all, but I don’t want to hurt his feelings, so please make sure he is busy, give him tasks” or “My husband is taking over any situation, I can’t have him take over my birth”, as well as “He thinks he can take it, but I know him, he can’t, so I need you to be his doula and keep him calm”.

Coincidentally enough, my students and I have had more than a few encounters with the request to ‘handle husbands’ lately, and I believe many other doulas might have too.  Couple’s dynamics can be challenging in childbirth; it can interfere with our doula support, and can have an impact on the couple’s level of satisfaction from their birth experience. By fully understanding the situation at hand, and acquiring coaching tools to deal with it, doulas can be ready for the challenge, and reduce its impact on their support, resulting in higher levels of satisfaction for the couple.BLOG BOX2

From a coaching perspective, doulas are in the business of group coaching. If it is more than one, it is a group, and a couple is definitely a group. Doulas are trained to focus on the mom’s needs, their feelings and physical comfort, but nevertheless we cannot ignore the dad, nor can we team up with the mother and “handle him”.It is not healthy for us, and its harming for our clients.

For the purpose of handing doulas the coaching tools for dealing with this challenge, I want to share an actual case study, with the permission of my doula student.  A couple of months ago my student met with her second client, and was asked by the mother to “watch” him during labor and redirect him, “take him away” if he gets to be too much in my way.” (This is taken directly from the student’s notes). My student agreed to her client’s request, believing that she was doing her good, and here is what she wrote in her supervision report: “When faced with this request, I suggested to [mom] that we come up with a secret sign that would let me know to redirect [dad]”.

During our supervision session, following her meeting with the client, I asked her how she thought this agreement served the mother. I pointed out to her  that from a coaching perspective, our role is to empower the mother to express herself, her wishes and needs, to her support group. If we do this for her, we are depriving her from opportunities to grow. Similarly, doctors wanted to rescue women from labor pains, and offered them different types of pain management options.  What might have begun with good intentions, ended up with mothers being disempowered during childbirth. As doulas we sometimes feel the need to rescue the mother as well, but only because we fail to perceive our clients as competent, which is one of the basic premises of coaching. Here are my student notes, concluding  this supervision session: “As birth coaches we want to empower the mom. The mom needs to vocalize herself to her partner… that she needs space, having the birth coach do that for her is not empowering. To help the mom, the coach can suggest: would you like for the 2 of us to practice this? Can you find the words to express the fact that you need a change? The bigger the coach, the smaller the mom.  The more we do for her or take from her, the less she is empowered.”

In her following meeting with the client, my student never went back to revise her client’s request to “handle the dad”. After the birth she texted me: “I had the feeling that my client did not want me there at all, did not want me at the birth”. As her trainer, I was concerned about that, and asked her to try and explain the source of her feeling. Here is what came up: Surprisingly the dad did a very good job supporting his wife during labor, and she seemed happy with what he was doing. I was more in the background suggesting and preparing things for them. She never talked to me directly or engaged with me.”

From a coaching perspective, the doula failed to do what the client hired her for, because she never clarified her role with the client. Looking back to what the client has asked, the doula did not ask her client what she meant by: “If he gets to be too much in my way”, and therefore she couldn’t “redirect him”.  The doula could have asked clarifying questions such as:

  • Can you give me some examples for what you mean by “Gets to be too much in my way”?
  • How does it look like when he is in your way?
  • How does it make you feel when he is in your way?
  • How do you react when he is in your way?
  • How do you suggest that I redirect him?
  • And the $1M question that could have evoked a change in the couple’s relationships: Would you like us to practice some ways for you to express how you feel and what you need from him?

Instead, the doula felt that the partner did well. My poor student did not hear from this couple again, although she tried to reach out to the couple after the birth by phone, and facilitate a closure. It was also difficult experience for both the mother and the doula, as after many hours of contractions, the mother ended up needing a cesarean section.

As a doula, I encourage you pay attention to explicit and/or implicit signals that you get about the couple’s dynamics. If there are issues with their dynamics,  don’t ignore them, as they will almost certainly emerge during the birth, and can sabotage your efforts to help the couple achieve the experience you were hired for.  Of course it is not your role to facilitate a change in their relationships. After all you are not a marital relationship counselor or therapist. However, you can coach them gently, and empower them to reach some agreements for the sake of a healthy and good childbirth. Imagine how valuable it would be for them to communicate in a respectful manner, to establish teamwork, to work out their differences, or to express their needs to one another during childbirth. This experience will leave its mark on their relationship, and will empower them to create the change needed.

Here are some tools for coaching the couple around thier dynamics:

  • Reflect on the explicit and/or implied message that has alerted you with questions like: ” Did I understand correctly that you are …”
  • If your impression is confirmed, ask for examples and clarifications until you are clear on the matter. “Can you give me some examples?”, “How does it looks like?” Or “How do you feel when…?”
  • Try to make the couple observe the problem. You may ask: “Do you see any problem with this? “ Or “Can you think of any impact this might have on your birth experience?”
  • Explain your position as their birth doula – focus on the fact that your role is to empower and support both of them. Explain what might be the impact of the issue, or how their dynamics might be in the way of achieving the positive birth experience they hired you for.
  • When there is agreement about the problem, we can try to facilitate a solution: “What are you guys willing to do about it?” Or “Can you think about a different way to do things for the sake of a positive childbirth experience? “
  • Create or look for opportunities for the couple to practice the new communication skill or pattern.
  • During childbirth, if there is a need, remind them of their commitment to practice new coupling skills for the sake of their childbirth experience.

Reflecting, asking strong questions, clarifying, practicing new skills, and empowering ,  all of these are core concepts in coaching. I am committed to enrich my doula sisters with the coaching tools and strategies, and if this blog post made you feel like you want more of it, consider studying the ‘Complete Coaching Tools Kit’ for doulas, which I plan to launch before Thanksgiving.  There is still time to sign up for the promotional offer in the ‘coming soon’ box here.

‘Birth Ambassadors’ by Christine Morton – A Book Review

Monday, November 10th, 2014

Recently  I have read the wonderful book  Birth Ambassadors, which I find to be the most comprehensive and eye-opening study about doulas and birth support in North America.The book is a genuine presentation of the doula role, ways of birth embassadorspractice and training system in America from a sociological point of view. As such, it is free of any judgments about the dilemmas in the field, and views them from the perspective of sociological interests, such as professional status, the emergence of occupational niche, change agents in maternal care, community service, income level and even organizational developments. This point of view allows the author to also question, or re-open for discussion, some of the most common assumptions doulas and birthing moms ascribe to, including the benefits of doula care in terms of increasing normal births, and the doula’s agenda favoring natural birth, as well as doula advocacy in labor and delivery.

   To me, the most urgent dilemma is the one regarding doulas’ professional status. It is my understanding that this is also the core dilemma, the one that originates the others. In literature and doula guides, one cannot escape the choice of words used to name and describe this role by those who are perceived as the biggest doula advocates. Morton describes doulas for her readers using a typical definition, “Doulas are birth companions…The word doula comes from the Greek and refers to a woman who personally serves another woman.”  Neither a ‘companion’ nor a ‘doula’ implies any professional position—the latter evokes servitude rather than social change agents that come from being a mentor, a teacher, a coach or a leader. Yet, doulas are trained to believe that they can and do make change. Morton’s discussion of Klaus and Kennell’s book “Mothering the Mother,” the book that still, three  decades after their emergence in America, provides doulas with the scientific data of the benefits they bring, provides additional food for thought about how doulas are described. The title “Mothering the Mother” is another poor choice of words. As we all know, mothering is considered to be a non-professional position, and although everyone agrees that it is the hardest and most valuable work of all, mothers do not get paid for all they do.

The non-professional status of doulas in North America is reflected in the current training and certification system. Morton points out that research findings regarding doula benefits were actually based on a control group comprised of inexperienced and untrained women who sat in the delivery room and took notes.  Most doula trainings in North America are between a two-four days’ workshop. In comparison, I was trained in Israel, where doula training programs last a year and are usually affiliated with an alternative medical college and/or hospital. Trainees are required to have an internship inside Labor and Delivery.  As a sociologist, Morton points out the dilemma of doulas as being committed to providing humanistic and affordable childbirth support within the community, similar to what existed in a more tribal society before women began giving birth in hospitals, and the current situation of low status, low income and low professional standards for doulas as working women.

Morton continues to point out another motivation to maintain the non-professional status of doulas, which is closely tied with the circumstances of doulas’ historical origins. As Morton observes: “Doula care emerged as a unique response to the changing social and medical context of childbirth support in the United States” and “…the fragmentation of childbirth support [that] began with biomedical experts claiming authority over pregnant women’s health and childbirth outcomes and moving birth to the hospital…it is in this period we see the emergence of the doula as a particular, specialized role in providing non-medical support to pregnant women. “ In other words, doulas emerged in the United States as a reaction to the medicalization of birth, yet they are largely practicing within the medical system, holding to a philosophy of care and birthing model that are alien and unfamiliar in the medical paradigm. It is my assumption that doulas organizations are confusing professional status with medical status. If doulas were to claim medical authority they would not be able to practice within labor and delivery. While it is important to keep doulas as non-medical care givers, it is most important to elevate and state their professional status as coaches and care givers in the field of birth. Until then doulas are left with being viewed as community service or support figures whose motivation for their work ‘comes from the heart’.

Morton goes on to explain the controversy, facing doulas in terms of how they advocate in birth. In their current status as non-professional community service workers, how can doulas be an authoritative source for evidence-based care and empower their clients to question the medical staff and the care they provide?

I can see how some doulas and doula trainers in North America might feel challenged by this book, but I believe that this challenge is an invitation to initiate a healthy change in our occupational niche. Morton contributes to the well-being of doulas and birthing moms, by opening our eyes to the reality of birth support in North America. As a birth coach trainer, I would like to encourage all doulas to abandon the term ‘doula’ and the connotations attached to it over the past decades.  I recommend that we begin a new era of re-defining doulas as birth coaches, who can acquire coaching tools and skills, and enjoy the accreditation experienced by coaches in many other fields (such as life coaching, executive coaching etc.)  The coaching model and practice standards can resolve some of the dilemmas Morton identifies as problematic for doulas and their organizations, such as the advocacy dilemma, or practicing within the territory of doula support  without wrongly step into the medical territory, as well as coaching the mother prenatally for the performance of childbirth.  To read more about the coaching model, read my  blog post on  birth coaches vs. doulas at: http://www.birthcoachdoulatraining.com/imagine-giving-birth-profession-doula-profession-change/.

 

 

Imagine Re-Birthing the Doula Profession, What Would You Change?

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

 

     Imagine that we, the doulas of the world, were given the opportunity to go back in time and give birth to our occupation again. What would you change? How will you make things different this time? This thought came to mind as I was reading the very insightful and comprehensive book by Christine Morton, Birth Ambassadors. After fifteen years of practice as a birth doula, I am so clear about what I want to change: it is a paradigm shift that is both conceptual and practical.

    The first thing that I will do is to dismiss the term ‘Doula’, which implies servitude, and replace it with the term ‘Coach’, which has the connotations of ‘leader’ and ‘expert’ in a certain field. Mazel-Tov! I just re-named the ‘baby’ – Birth Coach!  There are coaches for every field of human performance – sports, acting, singing, career, executive, relationship, life…you name it! Why not for the performance of birth then?

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Coaches not only help their clients to prepare through practice for their upcoming performance, they do much more than that: they provide them with theoretical knowledge about the field of their performance. They are a resource of knowledge, they empower, and they provide emotional support and cheer for them.

    The next thing I will do is go back to what motivated me to give birth to this baby in the first place.  It was my passion to support and lead expectant mothers towards and through healthy and vaginal births.  However, I feel that it was also a circumstantial birth; that it was brought to life as an opposition to the medical paradigm, and the maternal care it provided for birthing moms. I sympathize with this pioneering stand, this opposition to a dominant ideology is the beginning of many new ideas, and can be the origin of new concepts of care; however, I am not a pioneer any more.    The doula caregiver has been around for three decades already, and it is time to take it to the next level: professional standardization of knowledge and practice. To achieve that I will shift the focus of my philosophy and my training from the medical care to the essence of childbirth itself, and I will explore the essence of the birth experience.  

While doing that I will notice that:

  1. Childbirth evokes fear and pain in women: The first birth stories that were told in Western culture, whether I find them in the Bible* or in the Greek Mythology**, had implanted the seeds and tied the knot of fear and pain that are deeply associated with our concept of birth.  For thousands of years, before medical inventions like contraceptives, blood transfusion, sanitation, antibiotics and more were available; giving birth in fact was a life threatening experience for our female ancestors.  This kind of fear can be hereditary, meaning that women nowadays can still carry the fear and threat in their cellular memory***. Therefore, I will define it as the role of the birth coach to explore the belief system of her birth client, and help her to distinguish fear from reality, truth from myth, and facilitate the expectant mom in forming a positive and healthy concept of birth which will be aligned with a healthy birth experience, and with her ideal birth.  This coaching will allow a new way of  ‘being‘ with the birth experience.  It will allow the acceptance of the experience rather than rejection and fear, and will empower the mother to be present and cope with the sensations and emotions during her birth experience.

 

  1. Birth is a performance: When observing mothers giving birth I noticed that giving birth in a way nature indented it for women, is quite a performance! It requires expectant mothers to perform physically, mentally and emotionally in a way that is so different from their everyday life. From this observation  I will draw the conclusion that in order to increase their chances of having  healthy births, expectant mothers have to acquire a new set of labor support tools and skills, which they need to practice a lot with, until these tools  become their habitual response to labor and birth sensations.  This type of coaching will allow a new way of ‘doing’; a new way of responding to labor, which will be aligned with the new way of being.  When practicing these labor support tools, like relaxation, breathing techniques, visualization, massages and vocalization, mothers will be empowered to respond to labor sensations and strains with skills that are supporting the progress of their labor, reducing levels of fear and pain, and that can increase their chances of giving birth in a healthy manner.  My role definition will include practicing labor support tools with birth clients on a regular basis, and assigning areas of practice for them.

 

  1. The coach’s goal is to bring the coachee to high level of performance with no need for the coach’s continuous presence: Child birth IS a performance, and one that takes time I must point out. To borrow from the world of sport, birth is no 100 meter run; it is more like a marathon.  Is there an obligation or a need for the coach to run alongside the runner and provide continuous coaching through the marathon, from beginning to end? No, absolutely not. Coaching and empowerment take place before the performance, and at times during its course.  Providing continuous support for the whole process of birth, regardless of how long it is, bares a risk of disempowerment, of the coach becoming the savior, and implying a need to rescue the mother. This is not valuable coaching. Therefore, in my training and my philosophy, I will focus on the importance of continuous prenatal coaching rather than the continuous presence of the coach.

 

  1. It takes a village to support a woman in childbirth: When recalling my own birth experience I will acknowledge my partner, the father of my daughters, as the main source of my emotional support during birth. Therefore, I will conclude that a birth coach is in the business of group coaching, as two people are already a group by definition.  I will then open my eyes and look around to see who else was supporting me during my birth, who else was present in the room and in what role? The support group just grew bigger to include the nurse, the midwife, and the OB/GYN.  To each their own way of making sure me and my baby are safe and are being cared for, they just practice within different paradigms, practice different modalities of care. I will then conclude that the role of the birth coach is to facilitate decision making and team work among all the parties present in the room. Using coaching skills and tools, the coach can and should facilitate team work in the best interest of the mother’s birth experience and for her to be able to experience her ideal birth.

 

  1. Birth is unpredictable; there is no clear route, only a destination: Looking at the body of knowledge I hold about birth, I can’t avoid noticing how unpredictable birth in its essence is. Yes, I have a chart of labor phases and stages, and I know the symptoms by heart, and there is a so called normal unfolding of birth, but all in all I have to admit that there is so much we can’t predict about birth.  As a childbirth educator I can only prepare my students to some prototype we invented in order to talk about birth, and I stopped using the term ‘birth plan’ long ago. There is no plan or route, only a destination – healthy birth. And the birth coach is the travel agent and the tour guide. With this recognition I will conclude that the role of the coach is to model and facilitate flexibility and acceptance.  To enable the client to recognize possibilities and options during the birth, and facilitate the acceptance of what was maybe perceived as unacceptable for their clients.

 

  1. A mother’s childbirth memory is as important as her own birth:  Looking back at my birth memories, I notice how present they are in my life. My childbirths were transformative in essence, and with each baby that I gave birth to, something new was born in me. This transformative essence of birth could be found in many birth stories.  From this I conclude that the role of the birth coach is to coach the mother after birth to reach a closure, to process her birth experience and make it a coherent and clear memory, which she can feel comfortable recalling and telling, and from which she can grow.

 

Imagine giving birth to the doula profession all over again. I just did it, and I will continue to do so. Will you join me in this transformation? Let me please introduce The Birth Coach Method, a paradigm shift in the doula role and practice.

 

   Birth coaches:

  • Coach the expectant mother to form a healthy positive concept of birth.
  • Prepare the mother for the performance of childbirth by practicing labor support tools and assigning areas of practice for her.
  • Aim at empowering and preparing the mom to embark and perform with confidence during her childbirth with no requirement for the coach’s continuous presence.
  • Facilitate team work and agreement reaching among all the caregivers and members of the mom’s support group.
  • Model and practice flexibility in order to facilitate acceptance of the unpredictability of birth and allow the mother to be in peace with circumstances which might not be aligned with her ideal birth.
  • Coach the mother after the birth to reach closure, process her childbirth experience, and form a positive memory which she can recall and tell with clarity and positive emotions.

 

As always, I invite your feedback and impressions. Email me at neri@BirthCoachMethod.com

    To Healthy Births on Earth!

      Neri L. Choma,  Birth Coach Method founder

 

 

References:

*Genesis, chapter 3: “Unto the woman he said: I will greatly multiply thy pain and thy travail; in pain thou shalt bring forth children;”

** Homer, The Iliad, around 750 B.C, “”Then rays of pain lacerated Agamemnon comparable to the throes a writhing woman suffers in hard labor, sent by the goddesses of Travail, Hera’s daughters.

***http://www.cellularmemory.org/about/about_cellularmemory.html

Birth Coach Method Introductory Series – Part 1

Monday, May 5th, 2014

The first book I ever read about doulas, ‘Mothering the Mother’ by Marshal Klaus, inspired me at the beginning of my career. But today I have a different perspective on the book. I think that the title implies that doula is a non-professional role, because mothering is an important role that comes with no professional requirements, certification, or a body of knowledge. Another popular doula guide, ‘The Birth Partner’ by Penny Simkin, also implies unprofessional collaboration, as though doulas and mothers have the same degree of knowledge about childbirth. In addition, the title ‘Doula’ means ‘Servant’ in ancient Greek.” The preconceived notions of a Birth Doula are degrading. It’s no wonder that I still hear moms saying ‘My mom/sister/best friend will be at my birth, so I don’t need a doula.’ This situation greatly motivated me in creating the Birth Coach Method training program.
This video is about the need to empower birth doulas and establish their professional status. Doulas should be trained as birth coaches. Their role is to coach the mother prenatally, assist her in practicing for her birth, and only then coach her during her birth. This is the goal of the Birth Coach doula training program. Watch this video, the first in my introductory series of the Birth Coach Method